Was having a conversation with a friend last week about the 7-year itch belief that many relationship will go downhill. This concept originated from a movie "seven-year itch" released in 1955. It talks about a married man who struggles with the temptation to leave his wife and child, for a younger women. Since then, the 7 year itch became a widely accepted phenomenon.
Sadly, in my opinion, this concept has been a common excuse used when one partner gets involved in extra marital affairs. It has become more acceptable in the society when a relationship turns sour at the 7 year mark, nothing too unexpected. It's all psychological, a state of mass mindset. Disgustingly truth but to some, being part of this phenomenon is something to be proud of.
I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.
When we make this vow on the wedding day, do we make it with the expectation that the love with decline over time? Absolutely not. We walk down the aisle feeling like we are the happiest man/woman on earth, marrying the one who love us the most. We are filled with anticipation about living life together as husband and wife, the romantic things we could do for each other and eventually as family.
What exactly is the cause for this phenomenon?
Some says ... it takes 7 years to get used to and bored of each other ... the regularites of life drives an individual to look for more excitement outside marriage life. Others says its a human developement that causes a change in expectations towards life, which includes marriage. They realise their other half is no longer on par with them in terms of mindset, lifestlye, economic status.. etc.
Wells, marriage to me is not a contract that you can break. It is a covenant that you make. "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part." It is a promises that should never be broken. It takes effort from both parties to sustain a happy marriage just like it takes 2 hands to clap. There is no prefect wife nor prefect husband. All of us have imprefections and the sensible thing to do is to accept, accomodate and embrace the differences. Love covers all :)
7-year itch? Stop this phenomenon!
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